Engagements are a once in a lifetime (if you're lucky) moment. If you're like many others, you haven't thought out all of the nuanced details that go into such a momentous occasion. You have to plan the proposal, choose the setting, and read all the statistics. You also have to understand engagement ring etiquette.
As another year begins, we bring updates on the most modern rules of engagement ring etiquette. From how to take your ring selfie for Instagram, to what you should do if you really hate the ring - we have put together all the rules you need to know to keep up with modern times.
Keep scrolling to read all the newest rules about engagement ring etiquette.
The diamond solitaire ring is really the original engagement ring. However, it's not the only option anymore. More and more couples are starting to try different engagement ring styles, such as three stone rings and halo settings.
You can explore a plethora of engagement ring settings, or you can set up a meeting at a jewelry store to create a one of a kind piece. Point is, you now have nearly limitless options and no longer have to only look at solitaire rings.
Let's say your suitor does all the right engagement ring research and gets some intel on your likes and dislikes, yet still purchases a ring that you absolutely deplore. Well, we're giving you a free pass to let your proposer know your true feelings. After all, this is the one accessory that you'll likely wear everyday for the rest of your life.
With all that being said, there is a right and a wrong way to show your discontentedness. We suggest tactfully expressing your feelings, working together to re-design the ring, and learning to love the final product.
If you want to avoid a conversation about whether you like your ring or not, it's completely acceptable to go shopping with the proposer. Tradition dictates that the proposer shops for the ring and surprises his or her lover with the ring as a gift, but in the modern age women may prefer to have some say in the style of the ring. You can go shopping together to suggest designers, send inspiration, point the proposer to your Pinterest board, etc. The proposer can still surprise you with the proposal, but at least you'll know that you are going to love the ring.
While you're picking out the ring (if you decide to go that route), you can also pony up some money to help pay for it. Nowadays, the one proposing isn't supposed to support the full ring cost. The engagement ring can be considered as the first investment you make as a couple. In a practical world, there's nothing wrong with discussing finances to ensure less problems down the road. Again, the proposal itself can still be a surprise and be filled with romance.
The moment has happened, and you finally have the ring you dreamed of. It's time to share it with the world. However, we have some engagement ring etiquette for when you're sharing your ring.
You may want to zoom in on the ring, specifically the diamond, but that could make you come across as materialistic or needy. Instead of solely focusing on the gorgeous ring, focus on the moment as a whole. Don't put the ring in the background, but don't make the ring THE picture. Brides.com has more tips on how to take the perfect photo.
It seems obvious, but not everyone knows the proper hand to wear their engagement ring. Modern etiquette hasn't changed the norm of wearing your engagement ring on the left hand. We advocate that the right hand remain open for rings that don't indicate any relationship affiliations. If you want to be open about your engagement (and keep your spouse happy), you must put your engagement ring on the ring finger of your left hand.
Less obvious engagement ring etiquette is where to place your wedding band after the ceremony. The wedding band is to be placed closest to the heart, with the engagement ring on top of it. During the ceremony, there may be some confusion as to how to slide the wedding band onto the bride's finger. However, the couple can choose how to handle that at their own discretion. Some brides leave the engagement ring on their finger and switch the placement later. Others wear their engagement ring on their right hand and then move it to their left after the ceremony. Some solder their engagement ring and wedding bands together so the groom just has to slip on one ring during the ceremony.
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